Posts by rose petal

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Hi again. I have told her to back off and we didn't see her for 6 weeks. This women doesn't know the word "moderation". And she is completely dense! My other half isn't doing repairs, regular or the other kind, he's putting up shelves, or looking at her car, etc. She doesn't come here when I'm not here, I've pointed out the comparison, would he like it if I went to a male neighbour's place for coffee. She's not a bad neighbour, she just doesn't know about boundaries. rose petal

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My annoying neighbour

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She doesn't visit here anymore, she just waylays my partner. Moving is not an option, not just yet anyway. rose petal

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My annoying neighbour

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sorry, I can't get the hang of html. I live in a unit complex, everybody knows everybody. I can leave a key with someone if maintenance is being carried out. One neighbour became very friendly, she would hear my car drive in and be at the door within minutes. She just wouldn't leave me alone. I've tried to cool it but she's the clinging type. She introduced me to my now partner, so I feel a bit guilty about trying to shake her loose! My partner is very kind, thoughtful, and generous. She now uses him to fix things in her place. I eventually told her that she doesn't respect my boundaries (I had asked her not to come on Saturday afternoons after I finished work, but she ignored me), so we had peace for about 6 weeks. Now she's back again, my partner is looking for a car for my parents who are moving here soon. So she's offered to show him her mechanic's car. He's such a softie, that he can't say no. I told him that I feel that he's not supporting me, and he says that he knows that her & I have nothing in common, and he'll try , but this woman is determined. It's taken me 2 years to get to the point where we are now. I just want to be neighbours and say hi. She's lonely, I know that, but we have nothing in common and her kids are the reason she has no friends, they are rude, spoilt, and throw tantrums, they are 14 and 12! I love my partner because he's kind and generous, but those same qualities are preventing him from holding her at a distance. What can I do? rose petal

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My annoying neighbour

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Former Jehovahs WitnessAre Hypocrites

by The wanderer in

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former jehovahs witnessare hypocritesit amazes me how these people who once donned three-piece suits .

with book, bag and bible in hand are now singing the blues.

these former jehovahs witnesses, who would annoy a man and his.

rose petal

Am I a hypocrite? I try not to be. I believe in what you see is what you get. I try to be a good friend to my friends, and a good person to the rest of the world. I cannot help that my sons don't want to talk to me. I was always there for them as children, did all the mum things, helping out at school, driving them everywhere. My youngest son growing up said that his friends thought I was cool. It is painful having the children that you nearly died bringing into the world turn their back on you. Everybody needs family (or damn good friends). People need a place like this to vent and compare stories. That is natural and good. Sometimes it takes longer for some people to move on with their lives. They shouldn't be criticized for that. I have a lovely man who I love, I have nearly finished my degree, I work for a charity helping disabled children, and I have a daughter in law that I love, instead of 2 sons. In my mind, that's a good trade! So, do not judge us, Wanderer, who knows, you might be in a similar position soon! rose petal

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So you can tell something is bothering them.....

by lisavegas420 in

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do you confront them and ask them what's wrong?

do you ignore them until they get over whatever is bothering them?

or wait until they come to you?.

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Hey Lisa, she's like passive/aggressive, trying to control you. I've been there before with this kind of person. She says she's your best friend, but I bet $10 that all she does is talk about herself. She never asks you any questions, she won't know your favourite stuff or tastes. She's a drama queen and it's always about her. I tried to be polite with my 'friend', then I just had to be blunt. It's not easy, but she has to work out her own stuff. rose petal

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Lurking behaviour explained

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hi all, as a librarian i get all sorts of stuff across my desk.

here's something that i thought would explain all the lurkers out there!

sorry the formatting and links did not transfer across.

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Yes, well, I lurked here before I joined up. I've been out of a long time now, but one day I just put 607bc into google for the hell of it. It came up with all these answers that contradicted the dubs.I was amazed! I (foolishly) never questioned the so-called authorities before. rose petal

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Lurking behaviour explained

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hi all, as a librarian i get all sorts of stuff across my desk.

here's something that i thought would explain all the lurkers out there!

sorry the formatting and links did not transfer across.

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Hi all, as a librarian I get all sorts of stuff across my desk. Here's something that I thought would explain all the lurkers out there! Sorry the formatting and links did not transfer across.

Participation Inequality: Encouraging More Users to Contribute
If you are running an on-line forum and wonder why people in your community are not participating as much as you would expect then see this article Participation Inequality: Encouraging More Users to Contribute from Jakob Nielsen.

http://www.useit.com/alertbox/participation_inequality.html

• 90% of users are lurkers (i.e., read or observe, but don't contribute).
• 9% of users contribute from time to time, but other priorities dominate their time.
• 1% of users participate a lot and account for most contributions
So if you have less than 100 people in your community - the forum may simply not be viable.

It was very interesting. Maybe someone can restore the links.
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Name the 'Finest Hypocrites' you know.

by AK - Jeff in

i knew of an elder who ran a janitorial business for decades here [surprize] - his primary employees were his kids, ranging in age from 3 or 4 to teenager at various times.

he would bring in the whole family, they would spread out and empty bags, vacuum, and dust.

in a flash they are out and off to the book study or whatever.. he was able to 'witness wipe' several offices after 5 o'clock and before the 7 o'clock meeting times.

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My ex was the finest hypocrite that ever drew breath! He would drink excessively, swear, have affairs (I found out later), badmouth people for no reason. He would be screaming in rage in the car all the way to the hall, and then step out of the car Mr Christian. I swore never ever to be a hypocrite like that control freak. I heard recently that his present wife is now going to the meetings (she said she never would), his stepdaughter has told her mother if she left she would say with him, and the wife looks tired, downtrodden and beaten like I did. He certainly has a way with people. rose petal

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the things that are wrong with being a JW

by alanv in

hi everybody, i am a newbe to the forum and have been faded from the borg for about 15 years.

i just wanted to say how good it is to read all your personal experiences about how you have been able to get free from the wts.

i have just read the post from jwfacts.

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Also welcome AlanV, you're like me, faded ages ago. But my children went back, so I get what I need from this board. I get ideas, things to think about, hopes, etc. Hope you enjoy it. rose petal